Bare in mind that children will always try their best in every situation they confront with but it depends on the resources that they have at that point of time to make the best out of their effort. So, avoid telling them that they didn’t give their best or that they are hopeless or giving them any ‘shameful’ messages as this will only disappoint them and break their confidence very badly. Instead, use positive ways to express how displeased you are with them.

You should reflect on yourself as well on how you handle your own mistakes as this will somehow influence how you accept the mistakes made by your own children. At every situation, always let your children reflect on their mistakes and ask them what they had learnt. Avoid giving punishments first but seat and explain to them the right things they should be doing and the reason why certain things are done that way. Help them to understand the situation by explaining to them the consequences and also the benefits of their different deeds so that they would avoid repeating the same mistakes again.

You may share with them your experiences or some possible situations. Remember not to jump straight into the situation and solve for them immediately or correct them right away but instead give them some chance to explore themselves and you never know they might just solve the problem on their own instead.

Teach your children not to be afraid of making mistakes in life but confront their problems as soon as possible. Help them to accept their own weaknesses and strength as this will help them to accept their mistakes eventually which will give the chance to learn from it. Instill in them these values as this will help them to be a responsible person and no matter how long or far they run away from their mistakes, they will eventually still have to face the music. So why not face it soon rather than later?

Generally fathers are always busy at work and it’s fair to make time for your family too. Be around your kids more often and get to know about their day or events that occurred which your kids are willing to share with you. This will show that although you’re always busy but at least you make an effort to get involved in their lives and kids being kids would amused you to your wits which will turn your own life into not so much of a routine anymore.

Both parents automatically become the kids’ role model and they would naturally look up to you. It’s important to be portraying to them good values/habits when you’re around so that they are able to emulate and practice. You mustn’t only teach them those values/habits but practice what you preach in front of your children be it with them or with others. However, bear in mind that you’re still their father and not their friend and so you cannot deprive them of discipline or always pamper them even when they make mistakes.

This does mean that you have to be stern towards them but still maintain being loving. Its both essential for your kids to feel being loved but still is receiving appropriate discipline too. There are always ways in doing so by grounding them for not obeying or making them work to earn for what they really want are some ways of be loving yet stern. It’s all about balancing and knowing your boundaries as if you’re too much of a pushover, your children will grow lacking discipline and if you push them too hard, they may just end up resenting you.

A father being the closest person other than their mother should also keep your honesty to your kids. Kids cherish and respect people who are honest and straightforward which would encourage them to be the same to the person too. No matter how tough the questions maybe, you should still provide them a respond that’s open but age-appropriate answers.

Definitely there are more points in becoming a good father but it still falls back to yourselves on how you play the role of being a father at the end of the day. Whatever it is, having to earn a living for the family isn’t always sufficient but with unconditional love, you just made yourselves a great father!

All women have their strong instinct that would grow stronger when they become a mother. Even those who doesn’t have any knowledge about handling babies or children, will automatically know how when they are face to face with them. Taking care of the family becomes a mother’s chore which mean cleaning and caring while providing them with basic needs daily to the fullest.

Every mother would teach their children a lot of lessons/values and uses these teaching moments to the fullest capacity possible. These values/lessons would eventually become their children’s future guidance in their life and their roots to fallback to when they lost their way. If possible in any situation, the mother would take every opportunity she can to teach any of the children, anything at any given time to raise her children to become a responsible hard working adult.

Because the need of teaching the children, every mother is excessively patient and slow to anger even when she is very tired. A mother will never be unkind to their children and leave them in deep trouble without helping them to solve it. No matter how hard it is, a mother would still make sacrifices to provide for her children. A mother’s love for the children could also make her give up her own life without thinking twice about it in cases where she needs to save her children’s life.

A mother would also protect their children from all that they can and would care about how did their children day went too. She would ensure her children dress to look awesome in any clothing and never look sloppy yet her children will look neat and clean from head to toe. She would also ensure her children take enough nutrition and supplement as well as enough of exercise to provide them a healthy lifestyle.

Any mom in a family would have done all this without even the need of being told. A good mother is someone who loves her kids and tries daily to be the best mom possible to the family.  Don’t push yourselves too hard as you could just be a good mother yourselves already!

There are always so many house chores to do daily and it can be very stressful for the mothers if no one is helping out not even the other spouse or the kids. The mistake a mother made here is not delegating enough and not giving enough responsibilities especially to the kids. Kids who are growing up needs to be exposed to doing house chores as this will help them in learning new skills while gaining more experience and knowledge for their own future use.

Some mothers would be very petite and lenient towards the children that their children aren’t afraid of their mother instead. This maybe due to several times when the mother gives instructions or punishments, she wasn’t true to her words. Kids love to test their parents in many situations and see if they can take advantage of it and if you as their mother have been giving up on what you set yourself, you have to start fixing the problem by sticking to your promise otherwise your kids might soon loose their respect for you!

You might have been giving inadequate discipline as well that’s why your kids aren’t listening to you. To start off, do not tolerate anything to give in to your kids. Then, you may proceed in disciplining them but don’t expect unreal situations like having your kids being obedient most of the time. This is impossible not unless they are much older.

Being parents, your kid’s studies will come first of course but in current trend, play becomes essential for their development. Through play, they can learn a variety of things and it was never a waste of time to let them have some fun. So, there’s no point in pestering them to complete extra assignments that isn’t from schools or sending them for a lot of tuition classes or new skills classes. These can be learn from play time and having their time in school most of the time and days in a week, its time to let them stay home or go for an outing in a different environment among different people and culture for a change.

If you aren’t working, you might loose touch on the current updated issue as being so busy taking care of home that you have been using outdated discipline methods that don’t really work anymore. Worry not as there are so many ways in getting back in touch with the new issues and fix things with your kids. However, beware not to push trends to your kids as certain trends are being too redundant and not necessary. You may have them following certain trends on their own already, so, watch out if they are picking up the right ones or not.

Most mothers even those who are strict with their kids, have a very soft heart. Like it or not, mothers still have to avoid these mistakes once a while as it’s for your kid’s own good in the future! Don’t worry as your children wouldn’t hate you for it but love you even more when they understand the reasons of what you did.

What makes a good mother?

So, being fathers, there are always mistakes made and the first is being too ignorant towards your children’s daily life though you do ask from time to time what’s up with their day, but you never really look into them properly. Sometimes, you might catch yourself repeating the same questions that your children memorize them and answers the same every time. This isn’t right and its time to make a change and reconcile with your spouse about your kids situation and interact more with your kids.

Secondly, most fathers being busy with work would always think your spouse would handle the kids and you tend to ignore the obvious. At times, you might assume good grades means there are no other problems in your kid’s life or when they make mistakes, you tend to overprotect them and defend them that they are right or even under protect them and let them innocently receive the punishment which is unfair. If there’s any favoritism occurring in your family, start by eliminating that and fix things in your family. After all what’s the point of starting a family if it is not to take care of them besides earning for them?

Sometimes, being busy can put you in a situation where you’re too focused on your work that you may bring home work and complete them at home that you forgot about your family. Either way, you may also be too tired to spend some time with your family after work that you just doze off after shower. Now, this is very bad that you’re showing a bad example to your children by not being a good spouse and also father! Your children might start to have second thoughts on your love and attention towards them and your spouse may understand and is able to handle this for a short period of time but not long term. This isn’t healthy at all for any family.

Since you don’t have much time to waste, you basically would set too many expectations for your kids to achieve and some may turn out to be very unreasonable goals. If the results are not what of you expected, this may result in giving your kids a good lecture of their performance instead of advising them and spending time with them to rekindle your relationships so that you’re able to help them. However, if their results are always good, you may be spoiling them with too many material gifts.

Coming to gifts, you may be pampering them with expensive gifts which they would only build puppy love towards it. The next moment they would be expecting a new present without learning how to earn it as some fathers spend on gifts for their children as a token of being so busy and not being able to spend time with them. This is actually buying out of guilt and if you’re so busy make time and do any arrangements if you need to because without a family, there’s no point being so busy at all.

As a father, though mothers are naturally the ones who would take care of the kids, its also part of your responsibility to do so. Raising a family is not a one sided issue but both be it financially or in values.

What makes a good father?

Responsibility is the most basic habit that a child should be instilled with from the beginning. This would be able to teach your child that everything they do, there are consequences to it and they should learn from the mistakes to be a better person. How do you even get them to be responsible in anyway if you wonder? Let them start off by making small decisions and as parents, you should be there for them when they are in need of help and guidance.

You may move on to instill in them respect and understanding where both are complimentary of each other. With the understanding of others needs and knowing the importance of being polite and watching manners while respecting others at anywhere, you gain/earn respects from others. Your children should be taught that they should show respect regardless of who the person is or their appearance are like or their status held which are the basics of respecting. In order to help your kids to achieve another level of understanding how to respect others, they would need to earn it by being a good person with integrity.

Teach them to be open to options and be adventurous. This will benefit them a worthwhile later as besides gaining more knowledge and experiences, they would be expose to more cultures and environments which indirectly would mature them. Often than not, arguments would be lesser and so are unhappy events as your kids can learn to adapt to any sudden change in any situations easily. Your kids would also be not easily offended neither would they take small matters seriously which turn them to be a very outgoing person instead whom could socialize easily too!

It’s also important to teach them the habit of being thrifty with money. Giving gifts as a reward or on special occasions are fine but not all the time. It will not be special to them anymore and this would spoil them as they wouldn’t learn the meaning of moderation or being patient. They wouldn’t know the value of money either thinking it isn’t anything serious which could get them into worse situations when they grow older especially being in debts and overspend!

Another habit is to practice with them being punctual! It’s very hard to keep punctuality nowadays but with effective time arrangements and sufficient time allocated for backups, being punctual for your kids will be an easy task. This would help them to give good impression while earning others’ respects while disciplining themselves. By being discipline, they make life easier for everybody including you parents as they could sort their things themselves without having you to worry about them!

Good habits are definitely tough to instill but it isn’t impossible neither is it an overnight issue. Be patient and be willing to help and guide them so that they would know they have a family to fall back when they are in trouble.

How do you nurture your child’s potential? Simple, by casually leaving your child around things for them to pick up or discard according to their own preferences and this includes everything in your child’s life that could spark his interests. Its fine to pinpoint items that you think is worthwhile but don’t force your idea on them. Keep an eye on things that comes naturally to them and listen to them when they talk as potential can also be discovered through other people who influence your children’s life other than you.

Try not to focus so much on linguistic and mathematical intelligence only as art and crafts or music are also great ways in nurturing your children. Not to forget games and toys too! You should opt to invest on a wide variety of paints or coloring material and anything to do with arts and crafts or musical instruments and lessons instead! Picking the right toys and games for your children to play can be fun when you join in once a while. Correct, fun should always be in your kids’ dictionary as it’s an important factor that helps your kids to achieve their goals. If they aren’t enjoying themselves, then they wouldn’t be able benefit from the experience instead.

Don’t be afraid to tag them along in any trips to travel! This can be the chance for you to expose your children to other cultures and lifestyles which they have not seen before and could let them explore for themselves. There are a lot of things to be learned and experience from traveling which would definitely leave your children touched from the excitement of new environments and people!  Books are of good use too but they shouldn’t be the primary source but secondary instead. It’s best to experience it for themselves the real things rather than from another person’s perspective. Books can still be of good help in getting your children’s creative juices squeezing for ideas and flowing to imagine fiction situations instead!

The computer and internet are also coming in handy as this can help in building a variety of skills in your young ones. With the social networks as recreational and research tools, you can choose to expose them to appropriate websites but with your supervision most of the time. Sometimes, you may choose not to be present when they go online simply to show your trust towards them.

A child’s potential is also indirectly influenced by people surrounding them and sometimes they could have role model to help them better. Parents, like it or not are always their role model and if a parent is being an open and interested in the world person, they would most likely to raise an interested child in the future!

There are things that you should do and shouldn’t do too. The most important one is to treat every child of yours as a unique individual different from their other siblings and appreciate them for who they are and want to be. Never try to compare them to any other kids or even their own siblings as this would only lower down their confidence level and thinking that they would need to compete with other kids all the time but instead compliment them and the more you do this at the beginning of their childhood, the better.

Don’t evaluate everything and overstate your expectations neither should you be setting strict rules for them to follow but encourage them to give their best to avoid them being lazy and taking things for granted. Explain to them that this would also avoid them from regretting not doing their best when the results are out. Give them a goal to achieve and evaluate their performance from time to time but don’t force them as your goal is to be their guidance in achieving their success.

Meanwhile, give them as many options to choose from as this gives them the chance to explore while gaining more experiences and knowledge. Encourage them to be open to new options and being adventurous to try new things as this would open more doors for them to explore other than their own strengths, their interests and weaknesses as well. They would eventually learn to adapt fast to rapid changing environment especially in today’s society.

Keep an eye on their interests and activities daily as this would help you to pick up the right options for your kids to try out. You may keep a journal on their strengths by jotting down your kid’s behaviors or things they do that strikes you. Playing would help to develop cognitive thinking and also emotional growth which would help your children to express them freely. During play time, insert some imaginative playing with them like role plays and watch them play with other kids too as you get to learn their preference and socializing skills.

Children would have more strengths than interest naturally. Do help them to discover both as with interests there are strengths. As the saying goes; you can pull the horse to the water but you can force it to drink the water. You can share your experiences and encourage them in doing as many of activities as possible but in the end, let your child be the one who decides on what they choose to pick up on. Only by this way would they learn to discover their own strengths and also their weaknesses instead of needing to forgo their own desires just to please you.

It’s important for your kids to know that everyone is different from each other and they each have their own preference which are the differences that builds the conflict. You should let your kids know that they don’t have to be worry but instead they should be appreciating their uniqueness as well as other’s too.

Explain to them that when they are resolving conflicts, they should ensure the importance of their own safety and of other’s as well. You would need to stress that they shouldn’t get physical or uses violence when resolving conflicts but instead uses an alternative like exercise that could help to release their anger a little.

When your child comes up to you for a solution, listen to them first to get to know what had happened. Keep your focus on their feelings and the conflict at hand instead of dragging in the past. Help your children set their goals and come up with solutions. Give them as many solutions/choices/alternatives as possible because this will help them to sort which one suits them and which doesn’t. In a long run, they will eventually know how to pick the suitable ones with their creative mind to solve their conflicts.

If your child makes a mistake, it’s important for them to realize their mistakes and admit it as this will be a stepping stone to self improvement and growth. Besides, they will become more responsible and is willing to apologize sincerely in an instant. Explain to your child that yelling or being loud with the person they are angry with isn’t appropriate at all as this will not solve any conflicts but worsen it. You may practice with them by giving them examples of lines to use or possible situations that they could be in and ways to handle them. Let your child know that being in control is always more effective than loosing it as this makes them stronger and mature.

Not to forget, always remember to praise your child for their skills and efforts in solving their conflicts. Simple gestures of hugs, pats or even a smile would brighten their days and gives them more confidence in doing more in the future. Children love attention but are also naïve and needs guidance. As parents, it’s essential for you to always be there for them at anytime.

Kids love attention and are always needing the assurance that they are being loved and appreciated by their parents as well as friends. That’s why no matter how busy you may be, take some time off and acknowledge your child especially when they are behaving well. It doesn’t have to be of any fancy rewards but simple gestures like hugs, smiles and pats or even a tickle is more than enough to please your children. Short compliments like “I’m proud of you” or “You did a great job!” are a few great encouragement statements.

Learn to change a negative situation to positive. Kids do the nuisance things of all and your child might break your favorite vase. Instead of getting mad and start scolding/punishing your kid first, list out some options for him/her to fix the situation like cleaning the mess up first is already enough to keep them occupied. Later, when the cleaning up is done, praise them but give them a firm, anger-free reminder to be more careful the next round.

Sometimes, in certain situations, your kids might show signs of being defiance. You can turn the situation around using distraction or even humor and reverse psychology. A little joke or compliments that you like them when they are doing certain activity would somehow encourage them do more instead of continue rebelling. Children are very easy to be amused and with your creative ideas, your children might just give in without feeling defeated. Don’t forget to thank them for their cooperation later!

Rewards are definitely the best solution for this situation. However, it doesn’t have to be fancy, expensive gifts either as a dessert after they finish their meal works out very well! Not to forget, you can take them on trips or a place they have been longing to visit or do an activity they long for are excellent ways to praise your children for their good behaviors. However, use such rewards moderately as you would not want to spoilt them after all but help them to earn the rewards instead.

Children when young are free to be shaped by parents into individuals whom you which they would become. However, they do deserve to be acknowledged for their good and bad while being rewarded or taught the right values when doing wrong. After all, that’s why parents are there as your children’s refuge when they are in need.