Conflicts can be simple or complicated and they are always around in our daily life. Teaching your kids how to resolve conflicts should be part and parcel of your upbringing in your children.
It’s important for your kids to know that everyone is different from each other and they each have their own preference which are the differences that builds the conflict. You should let your kids know that they don’t have to be worry but instead they should be appreciating their uniqueness as well as other’s too.
Explain to them that when they are resolving conflicts, they should ensure the importance of their own safety and of other’s as well. You would need to stress that they shouldn’t get physical or uses violence when resolving conflicts but instead uses an alternative like exercise that could help to release their anger a little.
When your child comes up to you for a solution, listen to them first to get to know what had happened. Keep your focus on their feelings and the conflict at hand instead of dragging in the past. Help your children set their goals and come up with solutions. Give them as many solutions/choices/alternatives as possible because this will help them to sort which one suits them and which doesn’t. In a long run, they will eventually know how to pick the suitable ones with their creative mind to solve their conflicts.
If your child makes a mistake, it’s important for them to realize their mistakes and admit it as this will be a stepping stone to self improvement and growth. Besides, they will become more responsible and is willing to apologize sincerely in an instant. Explain to your child that yelling or being loud with the person they are angry with isn’t appropriate at all as this will not solve any conflicts but worsen it. You may practice with them by giving them examples of lines to use or possible situations that they could be in and ways to handle them. Let your child know that being in control is always more effective than loosing it as this makes them stronger and mature.
Not to forget, always remember to praise your child for their skills and efforts in solving their conflicts. Simple gestures of hugs, pats or even a smile would brighten their days and gives them more confidence in doing more in the future. Children love attention but are also naïve and needs guidance. As parents, it’s essential for you to always be there for them at anytime.