We are human and we do make mistakes from time to time. So does kids and that’s how the saying goes; “let us learn from our mistakes.” In fact, it’s very hard not to notice that your child isn’t making mistakes most of the time. The more mistakes they make the better as the more they will learn from there about life and the place they are living in.
Bare in mind that children will always try their best in every situation they confront with but it depends on the resources that they have at that point of time to make the best out of their effort. So, avoid telling them that they didn’t give their best or that they are hopeless or giving them any ‘shameful’ messages as this will only disappoint them and break their confidence very badly. Instead, use positive ways to express how displeased you are with them.
You should reflect on yourself as well on how you handle your own mistakes as this will somehow influence how you accept the mistakes made by your own children. At every situation, always let your children reflect on their mistakes and ask them what they had learnt. Avoid giving punishments first but seat and explain to them the right things they should be doing and the reason why certain things are done that way. Help them to understand the situation by explaining to them the consequences and also the benefits of their different deeds so that they would avoid repeating the same mistakes again.
You may share with them your experiences or some possible situations. Remember not to jump straight into the situation and solve for them immediately or correct them right away but instead give them some chance to explore themselves and you never know they might just solve the problem on their own instead.
Teach your children not to be afraid of making mistakes in life but confront their problems as soon as possible. Help them to accept their own weaknesses and strength as this will help them to accept their mistakes eventually which will give the chance to learn from it. Instill in them these values as this will help them to be a responsible person and no matter how long or far they run away from their mistakes, they will eventually still have to face the music. So why not face it soon rather than later?